Women must understand men are visual and are wired differently than us. She let herself go and he went somewhere else. It is not right, but how she is now is not how he met her. The same women who think it’s okay to let themselves go are being cheated on as we speak.

Tongues have been wagging and fingers have been pointing since married director Antoine Fuqua (Training Day) was spotted smooching with Eddie Murphy’s ex-wife, Nicole in foreign lands … Italy to be exact. What’s surprising, shocking even, are the number of fingers pointing at Fuqua’s wife of 20 years, actress Lela Rochon (Waiting to Exhale). The reason? Lela’s packed on the pounds and her hubby’s wandering eyes and roaming lips are the result.

One YouTube user (Bee Vegan) wrote:  “Women must understand men are visual and are wired differently than us. She let herself go and he went somewhere else. It is not right, but how she is now is not how he met her. The same women who think it’s okay to let themselves go are being cheated on as we speak.”

Yeah, Nicole Murphy is definitely a 50+ baddie but her svelte figure wasn’t enough to cement her and Eddie’s union. Beyonce’s out here running laps on a whole bunch of bishes and Jay-Z supposedly hit her with a dip and a two-step.  After experiencing the sting of public humiliation you’d think Lela, Fuqua’s WIFE, would be on the receiving end of our sympathy rather than our scorn. Why aren’t we out selling fish plates to raise funds for sis’ defense in case of a “slow sanging and flower branging” outcome? Wait … inhale. Exhale. Disregard that last comment as we at GLoveBoxX do not advocate criminal responses to emotional challenges.

With that being said, Bee Vegan’s logic doesn’t clearly identify what men should understand. Why does the responsibility of attractiveness, of maintaining a youthful face and tight abs to keep a partner interested rest solely with Lela, or our sister, our aunt or our mother? You rarely hear these same physical statutes being tossed at men who are several belt-holes away from that hot, 21 year-old tenderoni of yesteryear. It works both ways.

Look, we all have our thresholds and if the maturing of your significant other’s physical being is a deal-breaker; there’s always … the DOOR.